Money, Marriage & Meaning: How Couples Build Wealth Together with Douglas and Heather Boneparth

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Featuring Heather & Douglas Boneparth, authors of Money Together

What really happens when love, money, ambition—and sometimes resentment—share the same address?

In this deeply honest and refreshingly candid episode of Insight Is Capital, host Pierre Daillie sits down with Heather and Douglas Boneparth, the powerhouse couple behind Bone Fide Wealth and co-authors of the bestselling book Money Together.

Heather’s journey from corporate attorney to financial storyteller and Doug’s rise as one of today’s most recognizable financial planners form the backdrop for a conversation that goes far beyond spreadsheets. They open up about the real dynamics inside modern relationships: shifting power, unseen labor, income imbalances, ambition, fairness, and the emotional landmines that determine whether couples thrive—or quietly fracture.

Key Takeaways

Money problems are rarely about money—they’re about communication, fairness, and identity.

Heather and Doug reveal how unspoken expectations, shifting power dynamics, and invisible workloads slowly erode trust when couples aren’t talking honestly about what’s changing in their lives.

Fairness—not 50/50 equality—is the foundation of a resilient financial partnership.

True fairness means “making room” for each other—emotionally, professionally, and financially—as needs, seasons, and capacities evolve.

Shared financial success requires discomfort, curiosity, and consistent practice.

Quarterly money dates, honesty about risk tolerance, and a willingness to stretch outside comfort zones create the compounding effect that strengthens relationships over decades.

This episode is a must-watch for couples, advisors, and anyone seeking a healthier, more intentional relationship with money—and with each other.

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⏱️ CHAPTERS

00:00 – Welcome
00:56 – Meet Heather & Doug
02:20 – From law to financial storytelling
03:09 – Doug on building Bone Fide Wealth
04:29 – Balancing work, family & online presence
05:48 – Chaos, organization & compromise
07:00 – Discomfort as a sign of growth
08:21 – Risk tolerance inside a marriage
09:12 – The pandemic inflection point
11:48 – Identity, resentment & invisible labor
12:43 – The ultimatum that changed everything
14:30 – How the book Money Together was born
16:26 – What couples aren’t saying about money
18:16 – Vulnerability & honesty in relationships
21:52 – Why clients don’t reveal everything at first
23:09 – How advisors can foster honest conversations
25:45 – Slow, gentle financial dialogue
29:18 – Fairness vs. equality
33:49 – Workloads, seasons & avoiding scorekeeping
36:51 – How resentment communicates without words
38:25 – Collective ambition & shared power
39:55 – Trust, money dates & compounding
44:24 – What couples should remember—20 years later
46:37 – Where to find the book & newsletter
47:10 – Closing reflections

⭐ KEY THEMES

• Money & relationships
• Power dynamics inside couples
• Communication breakdowns
• Shared ambition & fairness
• Emotional dimensions of financial planning
• Why advisors must go beyond numbers
• Building a resilient financial partnership
• Trust, teamwork & long-term growth

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